“When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.” Proverbs 11:2
It is safe to say no one is the perfect parent. However, it is the effectiveness, structure, and consistency in our parenting that helps our children grow into mature, wise adults.
Some days, it’s safe to say, my parenting actually kinda sucks. Days I simply don’t want to be that “role model” for my child. Days, where I may have accidentally thrown a curse bomb. Days where I’m so tired, I want to nap for 3 hours while my child watches mindless television – the ENTIRE time. Days where I let my child stay up 2 hours past his bedtime.
That is ok.
It’s ok to give ourselves a break and trust with God’s strength we can pick up where we left off.
Other times, I need to count on the Holy Spirit to guide me to humility…especially with my child.
Times where my course of disciplinary action may have gone too far. Maybe one too many times. Maybe 2 or 3…or 15.
Perhaps my mood that day in particular caused me to be too rough with him. Perhaps my choice of words was too abrasive for a 2 year old. Perhaps my tone was inappropriate and unnecessary.
These are moments where I pause to reflect on the kind of person I want my child to be. Moments where I need to bend down to his level, look at him in the eyes, and ask for his forgiveness.
The conversation may go something like this, “Mommy made a mistake with what I said and what I did. I did not mean to hurt you like that. Will you please forgive me? Pretty please?” I’m not quite sure what goes on in a 2 year old’s mind at that point, but he seems to understand, by embracing me with a hug and moving on with his life.
The beauty of children is they learn to forgive quickly. Like God is quick to forgive us when we repent, our children are also a mirror of His likeness. A reminder, I need to enforce this idea of quick forgiveness towards other people around me.
Having the ability to apologize to my child at even such a young age, it teaches him these values:
1.) People will fail him, but God never will.
As humans, we can never strike to please another person. I want him to know he is allowed to make mistakes and fail, but to learn from this mistakes and move forward.
2.) He will learn how to apologize and be quick at it.
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9). Even in times when he feels he may be right, apologizing will cleanse and help provide grace to those who may not deserve grace.
3.) He will learn humility.
The opposite of humility is pride. When we let pride get in the way, we force walls in our relationships. How are we to love one another when we allow pride to be in the way? “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” (Proverbs 16:18)
By allowing myself to be vulnerable to my child, I am more capable of relieving the guilt and shame from poor parental mistakes. Be comforted to know you are not alone. We are allowed to make mistakes, but it’s our choice in how to handle them to become better images of Christ. I pray that as you allow your vulnerability to seep in, the light of Christ begins to shine through. In Jesus Name, Amen!