Loneliness & Marriage
There is a misconception being in a relationship can fill in the gap of loneliness.
That’s a lie.
Loneliness will come and go depending on the phase in our lives.
However, when we focus on God, He can lift the burden of loneliness

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families,he leads out the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land.” Psalms 68:5-6

Recently, I’ve undergone a move to a new house, sale of an old house, a new nanny, unpacking, making remodel decisions, tending to my toddler, cooking dinners, cleaning, taking care of my puppy (still in the potty training phase), and more. I must admit, these distractions have caused my husband and I to be a little less intimate. My other roles include spending time on my ministry next to a separate full time job, being a mom, a sister, a friend, a daughter, and a leader.
It’s important to note that you’re not alone in this feeling and it’s not abnormal to feel this way at times. God rides these waves with us.
Sometimes, loneliness can stem in a marriage where one person has a stronger spiritual sense of God than the other.
Whatever the wave, God rides it with us.
Whatever the wave, I remember I’m committed to my husband for the rest of my life. We may have a season or two or three where distractions causes us live like roommates, but we will have PLENTY of other seasons where we will be more intimate than ever. We both know, it’s only for a TIME BEING. As long as we check-in or keep re-committing ourselves to this marriage, I have peace our marriage will thrive.
What about you? What season are you in with your marriage? What do you struggle with? What are you good at? Do you feel alone at times? Like maybe you’re the only one tending to kids & home while your husband is traveling for work? Or maybe a family member illness has caused your romantic nights to be put on hold? Maybe you and your husband simply don’t see eye to eye?
I would love to hear your story. As for me, it’s been a little chaotic & a little messy. Strangely, within the chaos, for someone who struggles with mess, I still maintain peace. Everything may not be in it’s proper place at the moment, but God will always have his place within me – His holy dwelling. God lives within you too. I will keep praying for your marriage my friends. May God hold His peace within your home.
Love you,
Patty Tower